Do you ever feel like you may never sleep again? Most parents do at some point or another. In my last blog post, I spoke about the 4 month sleep regression from Hell. For me, it was the hardest 2 months out of the 6 ½ years that I have had children. But, we made it through. Then, my daughter got a cold. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
All of that hard work went pretty much out the window. I know that it will be easier to get her back into it after she is better. But, it is so frustrating. She is congested, which makes it harder to breathe, hence, the no more sleeping. During her sleep regression, I had started not always nursing her to sleep. I wanted her to not need it every time she woke up. She had gotten into a routine of just being attached to me from when she woke up at night. As much as I love to snuggle with my little cutie pie, Mama needs some sleep where I can actually move. Now that she is sick, that all goes out the window. I am not going to deprive her of that when she isn’t feeling well.
So a few days went by and she was getting better. So I tried our sleep routine that we had before she was sick. Ha! She was not having any of that. I figured instead of driving us both crazy, I needed to ease back into it. Instead of trying to do everything at once, I started first with just sleep. When she woke up and was not comforted by a little pat on the back or her pacifier, I would pick her up and nurse her. Baby steps. But this took a few nights. For those of you who have had a sleeping baby who then stops sleeping, you can probably agree that it feels worse than if they hadn’t slept at all. You finally arrived at the light at the end of the tunnel and then you get sucked backwards.
It was now time to try to get her back to sleep without nursing. I decided to gently do this meant that she would sleep with me so she could still feel and smell me so it was an easier transition. The first night, my husband was away. I was able to put her down next to me but after a few minutes she woke up upset and it took longer each time to get her back to sleep. After 4 times of trying, I was about to lose it. I could feel the tears welling up and my core being shaken. I tried to think of what else usually comforts her. I thought about when we are in the car. Now, shockingly, she is not one of those babies that you can drive around for 5 minutes and she falls asleep. She will stay awake for an hour sometimes in the car. She isn’t crying but she’s sure as hell not sleeping either. But when she does get upset in the car, she’s always calmed down by music. I am not talking about playing some Beethoven to relax her or some Baby Einstein CD. I am talking about my music on my phone. Oddly enough, all 4 of my kids love listening to my music. The best thing is to see your 2 year old dancing in her car seat singing Bon Jovi. So I tried to think of a song that I have been listening to for awhile and was also a slow song. Of course! Dan + Shay! I had been obsessed with their song, From The Ground Up since I was pregnant with her. So she has heard this song since before her birth and she has never cried when it was on. I decided, what the hell? I might as well try it out.
As I held my crying baby and fumbled with my phone, I found the song and hit Play. Instant relief! The second the notes started she stopped crying and closed her eyes. Before the song was over, she was fast asleep. I couldn’t believe it. I figured it was a fluke. My husband came home and that night, she started having an irritable period. So I told him that I was going to try something. I started the song and, as easily as the first time, she calmed down and went to sleep. My husband was amazed. He told me he needed that song on his phone immediately. It was funny because a few weeks prior to this, I had heard about a song that was supposed to be the perfect balance to put babies to sleep. I never got a chance to listen to it but it didn’t matter because I found out what worked for us.
Thank you Dan + Shay!